Another morning waking up feeling anxious and overwhelmed?
Will the never ending stress and frustration never end?
You may feel nervous, all over the place, and unable to relax. You may have tried self- help books, deep breathing and calming yourself down. These are all good tools, but they don’t always work.
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is a false alarm in your brain, like a code red that something bad is going to happen but it’s really not. It is a false sense of danger coming. The more you focus on the anxiety, the worse it will get. Your chest may be beating, you might not feel like you can’t breathe and you may feel like you are going to faint but you won’t.
I have worked with lots of women with anxiety who felt the same. Some of them have had anxiety attacks right in front of me in session and we worked together until it passed. The key is to know that you are safe and nothing will happen to you. This will pass in 5, 10, or 15 minutes.
It is very important to have a plan A, B, and C. Have your resources ready to pull out at any minute because if you have anxiety, you know that it can happen out of the blue.
I want to add to your tools that you may already be using deep breathing, and calming yourself down. I want to share with you new and perhaps unusual techniques to help you pass the anxiety and help you take control of it and not let it control you.
After some deep breathing, I want you sit down and plant your feel firmly on the floor. Then, look around the room where you are and count 5 things you see, 5 colors, and 5 things you hear or touch. Do it slowly. You can also tell yourself the date today, time and year. State your name and address where you live. These techniques help you bring you back to present moment, and ground you.
You can walk off your anxiety and do deep breathing at the same time. Just make sure you are walking in a safe place and take steady slow steps. Count your steps, take 100, 200, or even 500 steps if you have to. Or dance or move your body any way you like. Running is also great! Release those endorphins and you will feel better!
This may not be easy at the time because you will want to focus on the fact that you can’t breathe but distracting yourself takes your focus off your anxiety and will help make it go away. You can do this by: watching something funny on tv, listening to music, reading, coloring or doing some sort of puzzle.
I know, I know you are probably thinking, what is she talking about? Doing a puzzle and coloring is going to make my anxiety stop? That is absurd! It’s not I promise you. Just go ahead and try one of these techniques the next time you feel your anxiety taking over your body. Do it as soon as you feel any inkling of the anxiety.
The sooner the better. Practice grounding techniques, walking, or distraction like coloring and listening to music, these are all helpful tools that will pull you out of the anxiousness. What’s the worst that can happen? It won’t work? You can come back and let me know, please do. If all else fails, go back to deep breathing and focus on the breath. I would love to hear comments back on how this worked for you.
If you have tried all of these techniques, and none of them help, I would be happy to help you with some anxiety counseling. I practice Cognitive Therapy, Mindfulness, and relaxation techniques with my client. Anxiety Counseling can help you too! Please call me if you would like more assistance.
There is hope and help! I would be happy to help you with yours! Your anxiety doesn’t have to control you, you can control your anxiety!! Feel free to contact me here!