Unmotivated to Keep your Resolutions?
Unmotivated? 5 Steps to Help You Reach Your Goals!
As the New Year came and went, many of us made New Year’s resolutions. Maybe you promised to lose those pesky 10 pounds, committed to have more patience with your children or your spouse, or planned on getting to the gym or running every day.
These are common goals we all make and tell ourselves this is the year we are going to finally do it! Even Oprah, who joined Weight Watchers and has lost 26 pounds on it, said, “This is the year. The year of the body. This year I am doing this!” And she is. She is doing great! Change and commitment are hard, so very often our resolutions don’t work out as we originally planned!
Most of us are all in for the first few days and then somehow we get derailed, whether it’s work, lack of motivation, stress or it’s just too hard. We start to listen to those negative thoughts in our head, and then it’s easy to give up. The negative thoughts take over our mind and really mess things up for us.
What would happen if we didn’t listen to those thoughts? What if we could shut them off and keep moving toward our goals? That would be so wonderful, right? Unfortunately, these negative thoughts are based from our core beliefs and our core beliefs come from our past, our childhood, and the messages we received from our parents and caregivers. Your negative thought may be, “I don’t want to go to the gym, because I am just not motivated today.” If you were to process this more, deep down, however, you may find you are feeling you aren’t good enough, are unworthy or undeserving of looking or feeling good.
I hear this from my clients all of the time, especially at this time of year. I help them unpack the negative thought so they can get down to the core belief. It is not easy work, but it is important to get to the root, so we can restructure the belief and help them believe in and love themselves.
What can you do if you are feeling stuck and unmotivated? Whatever your goal may be, you can start by paying attention to your negative thoughts.
Here are some steps to help you on your journey:
Catch the negative thoughts that are keeping you from taking action on your goals.
Once you are aware of the thoughts, you can talk back to them in a more positive and loving way. For example, “ I know if I do this, I will feel better.”
Also, tell yourself you have no choice. You have to go to the gym, or clean your house, or start working on that project. Start small and, once you get started, you will feel motivated to do more.
Set small, realistic goals. For example, don’t tell yourself you are going to get your huge project done in one day. Break it up in small steps and do a little each day. If you can get yourself to the gym, then tell yourself you will go 3-4 times a week and build from there.
Praise yourself when you complete even the smallest step of action. Literally, pat yourself on the back, tell yourself good job, or give yourself a hug!
It is possible to achieve your goals or New Year’s resolutions.
These are easy steps that anyone can do and, before you know it, you will have done it! It’s all about not giving up on yourself and believing in you! You got this!!!
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